7 Signs Your Relationship Is Lifting You Up & 7 Signs It’s Holding You Back

In a healthy relationship, you’ll feel supported by your partner. They will support you as you achieve your personal goals and encourage you to stay the course. They won’t belittle you or disregard what is important to you. Healthy partners offer support and help you stay motivated, so you can achieve your personal goals.

Open and honest communication is a vital part of maintaining a healthy relationship. You shouldn’t be afraid to tell your partner anything for fear of judgement. When expressing your feelings, you shouldn’t feel like you are walking on eggshells or feel like your partner will mock you or judge you harshly.

Healthy relationships allow you to be at peace and feel contentment when you’re with your partner. If the relationship always feels chaotic, it isn’t healthy. If you are always unhappy when with your partner, they are not the right person for you.

Relationships require mutual respect and appreciation for individuality. It’s one thing to discuss how to change yourself in positive ways, but if your partner doesn’t respect who you are as a person, trouble is on the way. If they don’t appreciate or like your personality, it probably isn’t a good fit.

Each success should be a celebration. It should never be a competition, and your partner shouldn’t always exhibit jealousy when you achieve a goal. They should be supporting and cheering you on while you do the same for them.

A healthy partner will build you up and make you feel stronger and more confident in yourself. If they always make you feel self-conscious, there are problems in your relationship. It’s about lifting each other up and not about tearing each other down.

You should feel joy in your relationship and feel valued by your partner. You may not feel joy every second of the day, but you will have joy and happiness in a healthy relationship. However, you should feel valued by your partner; you should never feel replaceable. When they value you, they will put in the effort to make your relationship work.

Now, let’s see the other side…

You should never feel drained or exhausted after you spend time with your partner. They should never make you feel like you’re constantly doing mental gymnastics or physically exhausted daily because of their expectations. Relationships require balance, and both of you should be doing your part.

In all relationships, you will have arguments and disagreements. However, you must work together as a team to resolve these disagreements. If a particular subject is constantly a reason for discourse, consider if it is a dealbreaker. You won’t agree on everything, but you should agree on core values.

A common reason relationships aren’t successful is because you lose yourself in another person. Compromises in relationships are necessary, but your personal values and principles are a major part of who you are and what you stand for. You should never compromise on your core values just to be in a relationship. Sometimes, being alone is the best solution over spending your time with someone who doesn’t share your personal values.

Healthy boundaries are necessary in all relationships, and constantly violating those boundaries creates a toxic environment. We all have specific emotional needs, too, and our needs must be met to maintain a healthy relationship. A partner who persistently neglects or ignores you can have a negative impact on your confidence and well-being.

It’s normal to fall into a routine in relationships. However, if you feel like you are stuck in the same cycle and never progress, this could be a problem. Relationships must grow and evolve. If you feel like a relationship isn’t going anywhere, it may be time to end it.

Toxic relationships will take you on a rollercoaster where your self-esteem erodes a little more every day. A partner should never make you feel worse about yourself as it progresses. Narcissists tear others down, try to break them, and use blows to their self-esteem to control them.

You should never feel the need to consistently make excuses for your partner’s poor behavior. If you find yourself in this pattern, you are in a toxic relationship, and it’s time to get out. Everyone is accountable for their own actions, and it’s their responsibility to explain themselves not yours.